Do you ever feel like as a mom, it's easier to see what other people's kids "should" or "shouldn't" be doing but don't have a clue what YOU are doing? I had one of those moments today as I realized how often I am SHOVING a binky in my daughter's mouth anytime she bawls or even starts to stick her bottom lip out. (slight exaggeration-it's not that bad! Well, she does have it in her mouth most of the time.) I think it finally hit that I was making a big mistake when I realized her top teeth are starting to buck out a little from sucking on the darn thing so much. Okay she just came up to me while I am writing this and saw the picture of her with her binky and immediately started crying for her binky. Do I need to say any more?So here is my question..Is it bad to let her keep it for a while longer since she is my baby and it makes her seem more babyish as she is approaching 2? If I am going to make the separation, do I do it gradually like just start giving it to her for naps and bedtime? Or do I just be heartless and cut the nipple off like others have suggested? Please help me! If this were your child I would have all kinds of wisdom to share with you but I am not the most objective parent right now!
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Ok, I don't have any advice at all because you are the one with four kids and I only have one who hasn't even hit this stage yet... I've heard it's easiest to take the binky away at 5 or 6 months... not that it really helps you at this point, but I'm going to attempt that shortly here.
Anyways, your blog is so cute and I am so glad to now be on your list of people you like!
I am still in shock from yesterday. I couldn't sleep last night because I kept thinking about it all. I'm going to miss it so much! See you on Sunday... should be interesting.
Kristen when I decided that it was time to get rid of Kaden's binky it was a sad day however I had talked to numerous friends and you get so many different opinions on what you should do. I think it is what works for you. We went to Cancun with the family and I let him have it the whole time we were gone. When we returned home I told him that we left it on the plane. He cried for a day or two but it was okay. He was 13 months when this happened. Having worked in the dental field I had decided that it was time, you see way to many problem due to Binky mouth. Good Luck!!!
This is a hard one... I don't know- it depends how sane you are at the moment. When we finally took away the binky from Samuel- it was so much easier than I thought it would be...(maybe because he was ready?) When she was over at my house- she didn't seem to need it- maybe that is a good start- leave it in her bed- and if she wants it- she has to go there... sorry so long!
I just had my first binky baby, so I am new at this. What little I have to offer is from friends. If you want to prolong it, then maybe give it to her just at bed time and nap time. Other ideas, I had a friend who had her little boy mail them to babies that needed them. Together they gathered up all the binkies and walked them out to the mailbox. Later, she snuck out and removed them. With her other child, she just cut the binky. So different strokes for different folks. Good luck!
well, this is truly a dilemna....I never really had a problem with this(although Alex did have a binky for awhile) but I did have 3 thumbsuckers! You can't really take that away, only threaten to cut the thumb off, which is a little hard to follow through with. My advice is to just bite the bullet and take it away cold turkey. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. It will be tough for a couple days, but maybe you could take her to the store and let her pick out something really fun that will distract her from the binky and make a big deal that she is a BIG GIRL! Make up a song about it. am I getting cheesy?? Once you take it away though, stick to it, don't go digging it out of the garbage for her!
I vote for taking it away slowly. I only say this because this is what worked for me. We told them they could only have it at naps and at bed time. I was cool with that because as soon as they fall asleep it falls out anyway. Its tough though. I had a hard time getting it away from Isabelle at sleep time. Grey just gave it up on his own. However, I do love the binky. I think it fulfills their urge to suck without making me a human binky. And it sure helps keep them happy when I am running errands!
I gave it to Gracie just at bedtime first and then about a week after that cut the top off and gave it to her. That worked for taylor too!
I'll tell you what I saw on Super Nanny: Have her help you gather up all the binkies in the house and put them in a bag. Then leave them somewhere for the "Binky Fairy." She's like the tooth fairy--comes at night. Then give her a prize the next morning in their place, like a treat or a new toy. It worked great with the baby on the show.
that's an awesome idea..i am wondering if she would "get it" at her age? i don't know. I tried taking it from her this morning and she cried and cried and i kept distracting her..well it was pretty quiet for awhile and i thought "wow, she is doing okay with this!" and i went downstairs and she had a binky in her mouth! (she rummaged through the church bag and found one!)
Hi, you don't know me, but I happened upon your blog since I'm a friend of Tiffany's. I couldn't resist giving some advice on this since I know how difficult this can be.
This is what my Pediatrician recommended for my oldest child and it worked great. He said to wait until the child is about 2 1/2, (otherwise they can't comprehend it). Then have them gather up all of their binkys and put them in a baggy. Take them to the store and let them pick out a toy to "buy" with their binkys. That way it is their choice, they know what they are giving up and they know what they are getting in return. This worked great with my daughter, there was only one night of wondering where her binky was. About 2 months beforehand I did limit the binky to only naps and bedtime too. Hope this is helpful, I'm about to repeat the same process with my son!
thanks for the advice! maybe i will try that. do you have a blog? i couldn't find your link. it's always fun to get comments from random people.
oh no the binkers is gone!!
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